One verse that has been such an amazing testament in my life these past few months has been
Hebrews 12:1, “Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a great cloud of
witnesses, let us throw of everything that hinders and the sin that so easily
entangles. And let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us…”
To know that I am surrounded by a great cloud of witnesses
that have run this motherhood race before me is so encouraging and inspiring.
Ecclesiastes says that ‘there is nothing new under the son’
and motherhood certainly isn't anything new!
The newborn stage of sleepless nights and early mornings,
the colicky baby, the crazy toddler, the potty training, the terrible twos and
threes, the fits, the demands, the tears, the never ending questions, the
training, the tantrums, the drama, the bff’s, the break ups, the heart breaks,
the fear, the worry, the laughter, the fun, the growing, the driving…the
driving away…the coming home…
We aren't the first to run this race and we certainly won’t
be the last.
And in that knowledge, as mothers we must look to each
other, to those who have come before us and to those who have come after us and
we must stand together in this journey.
We live in a society where we have been told and taught to
be independent.
We have been told that we are strong enough to handle
anything on our own.
Mama’s, hear me out…THAT IS A LIE!!
I’m not saying, we aren't independent.
I’m not saying you can’t handle it.
I am saying that you weren't called to do motherhood alone.
We are surrounded by a great cloud of witnesses.
We are surrounded by moms and grandmothers and biblical,
strong, proverbs 31 and Titus 2 women who have walked this walk; who have
journeyed through the hard, crazy days of motherhood and have come through the
other side of nursing and potty training and schooling and teenage crisis and
more.
Yet, despite being surrounded, we isolate ourselves.
In our isolation is exactly where the enemy wants us.
When we are isolated, all we will hear is the enemies lies
and our own fears and doubts.
When we are isolated, there is no one around to pick us up,
encourage us and speak life to us.
The Journey of motherhood is hard. It’s long.
Womb to tomb.
We have to surround ourselves with mothers who will uplift
and encourage and make us feel less crazy!
We have to learn to depend on other mothers and run this
race together.
6 ways to surround yourself with Godly Mothers
From Eve to Mary, there are so many
mothers and women in the bible who we can emulate, learn from and become
inspired by.
If we could do that, we could raise world changers!
2. Find
an older mom who has walked the walk you are on.
She may be a little older
or a lot older, that doesn't matter, but find someone who you can go to when
you feel a little lost or sad or crazy. They may not have the
answers, but many times, just knowing that there is hope is all you need.
3. Surround
yourself with friends who are running with you.
Go out for coffee and
laugh about all the crazy, beautiful things your kids are doing. Laughter
is good medicine for the soul.
4. Ask
for help.
You weren't called to do this mom thing alone. It’s O.K.to ask
for help.
If you need a day off, get a babysitter.
If you are overwhelmed with
housework, get a maid if possible, or maybe just once to help you at least
get a head start on the cleaning.
If the laundry monster is beating you
up, call a laundry service and they will pick it up, fold it and bring it
back! Hallelujah!
And since you’ll have all this extra time cause your
house is clean and your clothes are washed, call a friend and go to lunch!
5. Call
your mom or grandmother. Call you step mom, mother in law, aunt, sister.
When you need something or someone, call the moms in your life that you
are closest to.
It’s ok to need them. It’s ok to ask of them.
I know
family relationships can be hard.
I know many of you may not have the kind
of relationship that you desire to have with your mothers or other women
in you family.
Ask anyways.
Build a bridge. Break down the walls. Be vulnerable…it’s hard, but it keeps you dependent on God.
6. Be
helpful to the other moms around you, whether at the grocery store or the
chick-fil-A or wherever you are.
To that mom who is pregnant and carrying
a toddler, be encouraging and tell her she is awesome and has such a well
behaved kid.
To the mom in the grocery store who’s kid is about to lose
it, let her checkout before you.
To the mom who is carrying 4 happy meals
with 4 drinks, 10 ketchup's, her baby wrapped on her, her toddler
holding her skirt and her other two running in the play place and letting
the door close behind them…open the door for her! Get some extra napkins
and straws…We’ve all been there!
I know the few times moms have helped me
or said an encouraging word has been a life saver, especially in moments of weariness and tired.
We must strive for solidarity in Motherhood.
We are all in
this together.
We are all trying to raise our kids as best as we know how.
Don’t isolate yourself, but gather together and laugh and
love and encourage.
We aren't the first to run this race and we won't be the last!
How amazing would it be if moms, instead of comparing and
judging each other, we come together in unity and we walk this walk side by
side, helping and holding each other up?
If we could do that, we could change the world.
Don't you want to get Beautiful Craziness in your inbox?
You are His beloved,
7 comments:
Excellent post!! This is so true and so important. I recently wrote a similar post in 2 parts - part one is linked here: http://aimeeimbeau.bravesites.com/entries/august-2013/the-value-of-a-godly-mentor-part-1
It is so important to learn from godly women!!
What a sweet post, more and more I know that I need my sister's in Christ.
You have some really great points here. Too often we isolate ourselves as mothers (or as individuals in general) -- it takes a village!
I'm pinning this for sure.
Good post! It's so true that we are under attack when we remain in isolation. I'm a big believer in being a member of a church family for just that reason.
You are spot on. I have found all six of these points to be necessary for maintaining my spiritual well-being. When our family moved to a new location two of the first things I prayed for were godly friends and mentors for our children and family. We need each other.
What a great post! I have been thinking on this subject as well, so it was a great read and an encouragement. Thank you!
Love this post! Thank you so much for the encouragement.
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